I know. This is a touchy subject. I have friends and family members that are pretty passionate about both of these. To a new mom, this decision is challenging. I read the books-Babywise & Attachment Parenting-which represent the opposite ends of the pendulum. I found both books helpful, but didn’t wholeheartedly agree with either. In my circle of mothers, there is this unspoken pressure to be BabyWise. When I really asked friends about their parenting style, I was somewhat surprised to hear that most (not all) loosely followed babywise, and the key word here is LOOSELY. My biggest beef about babywise is that it kept saying, “your baby will…” All I could think, is “my baby hasn’t read this book, so my baby may not…”
As I’m watching the news tonight, ABC had an interesting piece on this very issue, you can read it here.
Yet again, more “experts” weighing in on the subject. My cousin, Jenni, and I came up with what we feel has worked best for us so far—somewhere in the middle, parenting without the extremes. I’m no expert of course, my little one is 6 months old and isn’t technically “sleeping through the night”. There is a part of me that feels the need to justify that, but I won’t. I don’t need to. I’m doing what I think is best for me and my baby-and that needs no explanation or justification.
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Hi Kristy
Your post is one of millions like it who are unsure the best for their babies and for their own guilt/sanity.
I am blessed with a good sleeping baby - but my twins not as much. I read babywise and AP and could
not do babywise, it just wasnt me. Whether it was ok for the kids I do not know but it wasnt for me
and that is the most important thing, what feels right to you as a mom.
I would highly recommend Secrets of the Baby Whisperer. It is the exact middle road between the two books.
While I tend to be AP in just about every area of mothering, Secrets of the Baby Whisperer is where I landed
on sleeping. Essentially she talks about a non abandonment cry it out with you in the room and your voice
and your touching. It makes total sense to me since I think the baby needs to feel close to you
and safe but also needs to learn a little bit of self soothing.
Anyway I just wanted to tell you that you are definitely not alone in this struggle. I actually wanted to
co-sleep. I was totally prepared for it with Miles (I couldn’t with the twins not enough room in the bed!)and
turned out after the real newborn stage (8 weeks or so) it was he that didnt seem to want it. He always
slept better in his own crib so sometimes the best laid plans….
Sorry to go on and on, this is a subject close to my heart too and I read just about every book you can imagine.
I also would recommend Marc Weisbluth Healthy Sleep Habits Healthy Child. LOVE this book too!!!
xooxox
Sam
I think it is important for people to find their own middle road that works for them and their baby (just like you are doing). God gave you this child and will honor your seeking him and doing what you think is right. i read the suggested secrets of the baby whisperer above that was suggested. It was good, however I feel it also has to be read loosely as well as the others. No book will be the perfect guide for you and your baby, still it is good to read what others have found to be failsafe for them
Your a great mommy.